The Shoat Statements

Random musings by the multiple voices inside my head.

I was thinking about this after reading The Drifter, and am now inspired to write a post on it.

Why do most of us live life, all shackled up in chains, too afraid to reach out to another, too afraid to take risks, too afraid to love, too afraid to love and be hurt by it, to afraid to let go, too afraid to break out of the mould, too afraid to take a leap of faith, too afraid to leave the herd? Why do we act as if we are dead to the world of beauty and colour and joy and excitement that life could be?

Because we've suffered from either the Snow White effect, or the Sleeping Beauty effect. Either, like Snow White, we happily went through life until we came across some psychotic person of evil who tried to put us down. So we ran past the woods, and despite being hurt, made attempts at several new beginnings. But the psychotic person of evil got us in the end, and the spirit we had finally died.

Or we suffer from the Sleeping Beauty effect. We went through life, full of innocence and joy, till some act (which had precious little to do with us) ended up scarring us so badly that our spirit is in permanent cryogenic sleep, practically dead.

If only we could realise that we aren't dead, our spirits aren't dead, and before we actually start to feed the daisies, we have a chance to reach out and touch the sky. Our spirit, or soul if you like, is not dead, but merely asleep.

The only question is, whether like Snow White and Sleeping Beauty, are we going to wait for the kiss of life from some elusive entity, perchance risking permanent sleep, or do we have it within us to shake ourselves awake?

Because remember, unlike the princesses, we haven't been cursed. We don't have to stick to the script.

I believe the sun should never set upon an argument
I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands
I believe that junk food tastes so good because it's bad for you
I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do
I believe that beauty magazines promote low self esteem
I believe I'm loved when I'm completely by myself alone

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love until you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye

I believe you can't control or choose your sexuality
I believe that trust is more important than monogamy
I believe that your most attractive features are your heart and soul
I believe that family is worth more than money or gold
I believe the struggle for financial freedom is unfair
I believe the only ones who disagree are millionaires

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love until you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye

I believe forgiveness is the key to your unhappiness
I believe that wedded bliss negates the need to be undressed
I believe that God does not endorse TV evangelists
I believe in love surviving death into eternity

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love until you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye

- Savage Garden

The joy that comes from giving, or gifting, is knowing that you have brought joy to someone, brought something special. It is essentially a selfless act, done for the happiness of another. It is an expression of something greater, not a be-all and end-all that has meaning in itself.

You cannot give to a person simply to satisfy oneself. But there are those who do. Those who give gifts every three weeks, like the trimming of a moustache or the rising of the moon, more for the satisfaction of their own inadequacies, than out of any genuine feelings. Or those who buy birthday gifts for every Tom, Dick and Harry to maintain their reputation as opposed to it being a celebration of a genuine relationship of some kind.

You can see it in the gifts, can't you? Coffee cups and candle stands that will (probably) clutter already crowded houses and paper weights and ornaments that are usually senseless even to the person who made it. Flowers, flowers and more flowers that's gone in a week (could we possibly find a gift less permanent?). Books and t-shirts bought from the corner shop (or Odel), checked merely for size, colour and price. Gift vouchers at least shows a touch of practicality, if nothing else. This morning I watched while a colleague bought a dog tag for a 'friend'. Puh-leeaase! A dog tag??!! Who on earth gifts a dog tag to a person? Next thing you know, they'll be buying each other leashes.

Is there anything special about these things? Does it show any foresight, feelings or thoughts that went into the gift buying process? None whatsoever. I plan my gifts weeks in advance, because I want it to be something special and meaningful to the person receiving it. What's the point in giving someone a bouquet of tulips just because it's my favourite flower? As a policy, I buy birthday gifts only to those who are close to me, or to those who are special to me. Isn't a genuine wish from the heart more meaningful than a coffee cup that took exactly two seconds to pick?

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